How to Quit (The Right Way) When You Hate Your Job (So Much)
It was 8:30 AM. I’ve only been in the office for 15 minutes, but
I’m already dreading the work ahead of me. Another day to grind through of answering 80 to 100 calls about life insurance.
Frequent day dreams about the weekend and partying with my
colleagues kept me sane. But no matter how fun the previous weekend was, I always
felt drained and unenthusiastic to go back to work on Monday.
Maybe you don’t have experience in customer service, but perhaps
you can relate to the stress I felt at work. There are a lot of jobs that can feel demoralizing or draining.
How to Properly Quit a Job and Avoid Reckless Decisions
Like me, I think you’ve previously felt tempted to tell your
boss that you’re quitting. Maybe you even considered just not showing up the
There’s nothing wrong with feeling apathetic and unengaged
at work, as long as you don’t let these feelings affect your career and
finances. After all, what will resigning accomplish, if you’re so desperate for
cash that you end up in a worse job?
If you hate your job right now, this article is for you. I’ll show you how to properly quit your job—without burning bridges and racking loads of credit card debt.
1. Mulling it Over
Don’t Quit Your Job Without Trying to Make it Work
Wondering what to do when you want to quit your job? You
have to think things over first.
Like a relationship, you shouldn’t quit a job before doing
your best to make it work.
A little introspection goes a long way here. Ask yourself:
Can transferring to a different
team or department make you happier?
Would you be more comfortable with a
Do you think your salary isn’t
commensurate to your workload or contributions to the company?
Do you have any grievances with
your boss or coworkers?
Once you find out what makes you unhappy, schedule a meeting
with your boss to discuss the issues. Try not to be accusatory when you bring
these up, even if the problem lies with your boss. And if you can, come up with
two possible solutions so your boss won’t feel that you’re just complaining.
Your manager’s willingness to make things work is a good
indication that you’re a valued employee, and there’s hope for your situation
within the company.
Pro Tip: Don’t
tell your boss about your plans to resign. Doing this is like hanging the
resignation over their head, and will likely result in burned bridges and an
Write a Pros and Cons List of Your Job
But what if the root of the problem is something beyond you
or your boss’s control?
Now is the time to consider other employment options.
The first thing to do when you hate your job, and there’s no
way to fix it, is find out exactly what you dislike about it. Be specific
because every bit of info serves as a clue to finding a career you’ll love—or
at least won’t hate as much.
Create a pros and cons list detailing every aspect of your
work, such as:
Your boss’s leadership style:
micro manager or hands-off leadership style
Career advancement and learning
Employee benefits: 401K,
healthcare, daycare, gym, etc.
People that annoy you or make your
Tasks you love
Tasks you find boring
Tasks you’re underpaid for or
beyond your job description
Company red tape you don’t like
Comments about your coworkers
Nothing is too petty to be included in this list, because
this depends on your individual situation at work. One person may find admin
tasks a welcome break from excess brain draining work, while another employee
might not have enough analytical work and complain of the ‘too easy’ and repetitive tasks on their plate.
Let the items on your pro list serve as a guidepost in
finding an ideal job that fits you best, while you avoid jobs with items on the negative list.
Your Losses and Plan for It
Your budget and savings will take a hit the moment you
How soon you can get a new job depends on your industry,
market demand for your skills, and desired salary. Keep in mind:
If you have no savings and are forced to use your credit
card, you’ll soon feel anxious and start missing the paycheck that came with
your previous job. On the other hand, having a sizable savings account buys you
time to look for a job you’ll like, without worrying about your rent,
groceries, and gas money.
In both cases, having a monthly budget will show you how
long your money will last. Worried your funds won’t last until you find another
job? Limit unnecessary expenses, such as eating out and shopping, or find a
part time job or side
Don’t count on unemployment benefits. Most states don’t
provide unemployment benefits if you quit
a job on your own.
Healthcare and 401k
Ask your employer’s HR how long your healthcare and dental
coverage will work after your effective resignation date. You may be eligible
to get a continued healthcare coverage through Consolidated Omnibus Budget
Reconciliation Act (COBRA), but if that’s too expensive you can get private or
Inquire about your 401K or company retirement plans as well.
You may have the option to cash in part of it, if you think your funds won’t
last until you get another job.
2. Preparing to Jump Ship
Don’t Slack Off
Working hard when you hate your job is hard. It’s even
harder if you have to do that while searching for your next employer, but just
bear with it. Don’t take unnecessary absences and don’t slack off on your
current projects. You might get reprimanded or fired before you’re ready to go.
It’s better to handle this situation professionally. Even if you can get away with sloppy work and tardiness, you’ll
regret it once a potential employer conducts a background search on you.
Send job applications and schedule interviews after office
hours. Tell the recruiters you’ll need to work with them to keep things under wraps. They
will understand. If you have no choice, use available leave credits for
interviews when your schedule isn’t compatible with interviewer’s availability.
It’s also good to pace yourself. Don’t schedule too many
interviews in the same week, or when you’re rushing to deliver a project on
time at your current job.
Vent Your Frustrations in a Trusted Crowd
Want to know how to cope with hating your job? Share your
problems to people close to you. Be selective though.
Don’t tell your cubicle buddies about your grievances with
your job and boss. They may be trustworthy, but you never know who else is
listening in on your conversation.
It’s also unwise to rant on social media networks. Twitter
posts are searchable online and almost anyone can view your Twitter feed. You
can edit your post’s publicity settings on Facebook. But this can’t guarantee
mutual friends you have with your boss and coworkers won’t see your rants, and
tell on you.
This doesn’t mean you can’t vent, just choose your audience
carefully. Share your feelings with non-office friends over a cup of coffee, or
talk to coworkers who already left the company because of the same problems
you’re having. While complaining won’t fix
anything, it’s a good outlet for pent up frustrations. You’ll feel better
Update Your LinkedIn
Update your LinkedIn account, while you’re still employed
and the details of your accomplishments, skills, and current projects are fresh
in your memory. Being active on LinkedIn is a sign of a tech savvy employee, so
not everyone will assume you’re job hunting if they see your profile updates.
If you want to avoid questioning, LinkedIn has a feature
that allows you to update your profile without alerting your network
afterwards. Only people who actually visited your profile before and after the
update will know that you made changes.
Once your profile is complete, join groups related to your
current and future job and start connecting with recruiters working in your
Pro Tip: Write
recommendations for your coworkers, clients, subordinates, and anyone else
you’ve worked with as a result of your job. People love getting good
recommendations, and they’re more likely to give you one in return even if you
don’t ask for it. This is one way to boost your profile without revealing your
intention to resign.
Save Everything You’ll Need for the Job Search
Send non-proprietary information about work to your personal
email. This includes documents that can be included in your portfolio, certificates
of training sessions, awards won, and information about previous projects that
can be included in your resume. The same goes for business cards, email addresses,
personal email and contact information of coworkers and your boss, in case you
need information about a project you worked on.
Some companies are stringent about allowing resigned
employees back in the office, so collect everything you’ll need, along with your
personal effects on your last day. Consider everything you leave behind
inaccessible the moment you leave the office.
Prepare Your Resume and Cover Letter
Use the information you gathered in the previous step to
update your resume. If yours is already two pages, remove old employment
details and unnecessary skills (i.e. MS Word) to make room for your latest
Not sure what else to remove on your resume? Check out my
guide on How to Make Your Resume the Perfect Length.
A quick update won’t be enough if you’re aiming for a bigger
salary, a promotion, or a career transition. That calls for better care in writing your resume. Why?
For a recruiter or HR manager to give you what you want, you
must first prove that you’re worth it, and the first step to accomplish that
is to write a resume that depicts you as a high-value and in demand candidate.
Start your job search discreetly, and don’t broadcast that
you’re looking for a job on LinkedIn. Instead, check general and niche job
boards, and send private messages to recruiters you’ve worked with in the past
via LinkedIn. You can also reach out to your alma mater’s career office to see
what kind of opportunities they have available.
To avoid burnout and keep you on track, follow the 30-day
job search plan described here:
Whatever your reasons for resigning, keep it professional.
Don’t humiliate your boss, or make it embarrassing for your coworkers. Going
out in a blaze of glory isn’t the best way to quit a job, no matter how badass
How to Properly Quit
a Job in 4 Steps:
Write a professional resignation
letter thanking your boss for everything you’ve learned while working together.
Keep complaints and grievances to yourself.
Hand over your resignation to your
boss or to his assistant. You can also send it via email, but giving it in
person is best.
Your boss will likely talk to you
after reading the letter. Depending on your skills and the difficulty to fill
your position, you will either be asked to reconsider your decision or be
permitted to move on after rendering the notice required in your contract.
Ask for a recommendation letter.
Whatever you do, don’t tell your boss about your new job.
While I assume most supervisors want the best for their employees, this isn’t
always the case. So leave nothing to chance.
Some companies conduct exit interviews to uncover trends in
employee attrition. This is normally conducted by HR or a third-party company,
so you can divulge your reasons for leaving. But don’t be too critical, as
parts of this interview might be shared to your boss as part of the company’s
Give the Required Two Weeks (Or More) Notice
Render the required notice time indicated in your job
contract. It’s normally two weeks, but I’ve heard of companies that require up
to one month of notice.
Use this time to help your supervisor find and train your
replacement. Wrap up pending projects and if possible, create a manual or hand
off document to make the life of your replacement easier.
Pro Tip: Don’t
feel pressured to stay if your supervisor asks you to work longer than the
required time. You are not obliged to stay after you’ve rendered the required
notice, and you shouldn’t jeopardize your next job to help your former boss.
Resist the Counter Offer
I’ve seen this multiple times: an employee resigns but is dissuaded
from leaving because of a counter offer.
It never ends well.
Management will think of you as flight risk who’s not loyal
to the company. They will also doubt your career goals, because an increased
salary was enough to lure you back. On top of all that, management has higher
expectations because you’re now paid more than your peers. Unless your
performance breaks your previous record, management will think the added salary
they offered you isn’t giving the returns they expect.